Like really, truly JUST. FOR. YOU?
If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably been running on empty for a while. Maybe self-care means you actually managed to wash your hair this week, or maybe it means you just fucking made it through another day without collapsing. We’re in this together—moms, single moms, girlfriends, wives, widows, solo babes—and we’re all feeling the weight of constantly putting everyone and everything before ourselves.
Burnout Is Real, and It’s Okay to Say You’re Tired
Let’s call it what it is: burnout. It’s the constant go-go-go, the never-ending to-do lists, and the unshakable feeling that everyone and everything relies on us to keep things running smoothly. And we do it—every. single. day. We keep our families going, we keep the house standing, we keep up at work, and then we somehow find a little extra for the people who need us. But somewhere along the way, we stop finding that little extra for ourselves.
Maybe you’re exhausted just thinking about self-care, or you’re laughing at the idea of having time for it. Because let’s be honest, for most of us, even getting a quiet five minutes feels like an indulgence, let alone taking a whole day or planning a spa trip. But here’s the thing: if we’re always running on empty, there’s no way we can keep this pace going. And yes, I know this sounds painfully obvious, but ask yourself: when was the last time you took one real moment just for you?
Self-Care Doesn’t Have to Look Fancy
Here’s the thing: self-care doesn’t have to look like some Pinterest-perfect spa day. It doesn’t need to be a big event. Honestly, sometimes it’s just about sitting down with a hot cup of coffee that you actually get to finish. It can be five damn minutes of silence, a walk around the block, or the simple act of breathing with a whisky in the tub without thinking of the million things you need to do next.
Self-care is any moment that reminds you that you’re more than just everyone’s go-to person. It’s that one second where you can think, “Fuck it, this is for me,” no matter how small. Sometimes, taking that one damn moment to breathe and see yourself as more than your obligations is exactly what we need.
The Price of Always Putting Yourself Last
Constantly putting ourselves last comes at a high cost. We tell ourselves it’s “just a phase” or that we’ll take time for ourselves “when things calm down.” But what happens when they don’t? When that phase becomes years of you always being the last one on your own list?
Burnout doesn’t just wear us down physically. It chips away at our confidence, our mental health, and our ability to feel like a whole fucking person. We start feeling like we’re “just getting by,” barely surviving, instead of actually living. Self-care becomes not just important, but essential. It’s not about feeling guilty for needing time; it’s about recognizing that you’re allowed to exist outside of your roles and responsibilities.
Reconnecting with Yourself:
Boudoir as Self-Care, Plus Babes Days
Now, I know boudoir might sound like some fancy, indulgent thing you don’t need right now. But hear me out. Boudoir is honestly more than just a photoshoot, especially for us Unleashed Babes. A boudoir session, whether it’s a full experience or a mini or even a babes day, is a way to see yourself beyond the daily grind. It’s a chance to look at yourself through a new lens, to remember the person you are beneath all the layers of “mom,” “partner,” “friend,” “worker.” Beyond the years, beyond the struggles, beyond the experiences, beyond the trauma. *Alexa, play The Sound of Silence on Spotify*
It’s a reminder that you deserve time, care, and a space where it’s all about you. No matter what that looks like.
But boudoir isn’t just about reconnecting with yourself—it’s also a way to build powerful, lasting connections with other women who truly get it. And that’s where our Babes Days come in. Think of it as self-care wrapped in friendship, support, and the kind of connections that go beyond small talk. These aren’t just photoshoots—they’re experiences where you can show up as you are, laugh, vent, celebrate, and feel seen.
Babes Days are a chance to meet other women who’ve been through it too—the burnout, the exhaustion, the juggling of a hundred roles. It’s a day where you’re not alone in the struggle, and you get to build friendships with women who understand your story. It’s about walking away with not only gorgeous photos but with lifelong connections that will keep lifting you up long after the day is over.
If you’re ready to see yourself in a new light, to feel celebrated, and to connect with a group of women who will have your back, join us for a Babes Day. Seriously. Whether you come for the photos or the friendship, I promise you’ll leave feeling more like you than ever before.
Take the First Step with a Small Win
If a boudoir session feels like a big step, start with something small. I’ve put together a DIY Spa Day Guide for moments when you need a break but can’t leave the house. It’s full of easy, at-home ways to unwind, reset, and remind yourself that you deserve a bit of peace—even if it’s just for ten minutes.
Because here’s the truth: doing something for yourself doesn’t have to be huge to matter. Start small, start simple, but just start. Because you deserve more than a life of burnout and self-neglect. You deserve to feel seen, cared for, and alive.
So when was the last time you did something just for you? And if it’s been too long, let this be your sign to start now. You’re worth it.
